Common Self-defeating Beliefs

How many of these beliefs do you have now?  By holding onto any of these negative beliefs, you will be defeated from achieving the goals you want in both your personal and professional life.

1. Emotional perfectionism: "I should always feel happy, confident, and in control of my emotions."
2. Performance perfectionism: "I must never fail or make a mistake."
3. Perceived perfectionism: "People will not love and accept me as a flawed and vulnerable human being."
4. Fear of disapproval or criticism: "I need everybody's approval to be worthwhile."
5. Fear of rejection: "If I'm not loved, then life is not worth living."
6. Fear of being alone: "If I'm alone, then I'm bound to feel miserable and unfulfilled."
7. Fear of failure: "My worthwhileness depends on my achievements (or my intelligence or status or attractiveness)."
8. Conflict phobia: "People who love each other shouldn't fight."
9. Emotophobia: "I should not feel angry, anxious, inadequate, jealous, or vulnerable."
10. Entitlement: "People should always be the way I expect them to be."